saddened an already dejected child. In order to salvage some of his feelings, I told Peter how happy I was that he wasn’t hurt and that he’d had his first accident in the garage rather than on the highway. Three years later Hayden, our next beginning driver, took out the frame on the other side of the garage door, but this time I was a bit wiser and was able to look at a negative situation in a positive light. Instead of focusing on the damage, I focused on her, saying, “I’m glad you weren’t hurt.”